HUSBAND IS BACK

He has actually been back for about a week now but until today we had honeymoon. Today his regular P/A stuff reared it's ugly head.
It happens like a little storm. He gets more and more 'pushed' (I think that how he feels) and eventually he explodes. That includes blaming me for not loving him, doing everything my way, and for me, and nothing for him, and getting into a self pity mood. I told him he was being disrespectful which usually produces no response whatsoever. (why do I even hope for apology is beyond me)
I admit it bothers me when he sleeps from 11pm till 10 am and is so very bothered to get up. When he does wake up, he is basicly doing us all a favor and then we get to this outburst after I don't feel like scratching his back. Sorry!!!
The saddest part of it is I have no idea what to say or do to make this in any way constructive. How am I to be helpful or supportive after being yelled at?
Anyway, we are back to being married!!! woohooo!